I have recently separated and someone said to me " you need confidence" . Not the first time I have ever heard that naturally but I thought i had come a long way in the years. Truthfully i know they are right. But how does one get 'confidence'? I am sure it starts early on with our parents boosting out confidence by praising us all the time, then gets confirmed as we get older and we do great at things. People boost our confidence and sometimes we boost it ourselves as we achieve. Then there's the ' you need an ego boost' which is a quick fix when you are down, from either a friend or some stranger who maybe flirts with you or says nice things to you.
But when you have no or little self confidence to begin with and now you are an adult, it is not easy to find. It is not believable or comforting coming from a stranger, and a friend-- well they love you unconditionally so its not enough sometimes. We really need to know it feel it and believe it in ourselves, and when someone tries to knock you down, your confidence will not stand for it.
I have never been over confident like some would call arrogant, and i have never been confident i think really. I think i act it. We all have to act it at a job interview so there is where we (at least I ) get our practice. That is fake so it subdues after we get the job. Like relationships if your not careful you can lose your confidence if you make the other person everything or higher than you.
I am learning that i don't believe all my confident acts, and although i need them to survive it just gets tiring, so where does one go and practice till they actually feel the act of confidence. Even the confident
people sometimes are the most insecure about something. But the 'fake it till you make it' is the basis of every how to be successful thing I have ever heard or read. So there must be something to it. So I will go on faking it till I make it!
But when you have no or little self confidence to begin with and now you are an adult, it is not easy to find. It is not believable or comforting coming from a stranger, and a friend-- well they love you unconditionally so its not enough sometimes. We really need to know it feel it and believe it in ourselves, and when someone tries to knock you down, your confidence will not stand for it.
I have never been over confident like some would call arrogant, and i have never been confident i think really. I think i act it. We all have to act it at a job interview so there is where we (at least I ) get our practice. That is fake so it subdues after we get the job. Like relationships if your not careful you can lose your confidence if you make the other person everything or higher than you.
I am learning that i don't believe all my confident acts, and although i need them to survive it just gets tiring, so where does one go and practice till they actually feel the act of confidence. Even the confident
people sometimes are the most insecure about something. But the 'fake it till you make it' is the basis of every how to be successful thing I have ever heard or read. So there must be something to it. So I will go on faking it till I make it!
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