As you may have seen the movie Bucketlist with Jack Nicholson, this is one of my favorite movies as it is also a belief. Not even just that if you know you are going to die you can do the things you always wanted to, but what about unexpected tragedy? In this day and age, unfortunately you could walk out your door, be at a mall, gym or work and something happens. I will not give examples as I don't want you going away from here thinking or worrying. If you take anything from this piece, take away the motto 'love like you'll never see that person again' and 'seize the opportunity'. My friend recently mentioned how much she missed out on when she was younger and in a closed relationship- she could've went to many exciting functions and met many a variety of people. Well each single opportunity she turned down because she was more worried about someone else than living for herself, she probably missed "x" amount of new friends to meet, and maybe "x" amount of more opportunities that could've come her way- all just from missing one of those opportunities. She has cost herself "x" amount of friends that she would probably be still in contact with today - whether to further her career, or knowledge, or meeting "Mr right" or just to have more gabbing friends today, she will never know what she missed. And now that she is out of that closed relationship, she will never retrieve those offers. But there are many more to come - We all have a path and a journey in life. We don't know where it will lead us sometimes - but that is why i believe 'life is a journey not a destination'.
My bucket list is so huge- but starting with achievable things like i never really learned to ride a bike - never had one growing up- and never getting my license - i cannot drive a car- those are achievable. On my bigger side is things like vacationing- you can bet if i had money or an offer to get away I would - when i come back, all will still be well - my house will not fall apart without me (as much as i think no-one can do it without me- haha) . But the price to pay if i said no to it is a regret- and i do not ever want to regret.
Now maybe your bucket list is to bungee jump or climb Mount Everest, but start with the little things or the achievables. Work your way up to the bigger things. But remember to say "i love you" to those close to you everyday (or however you let them know they are important) because if something happened to you tomorrow you don't get a second chance.
Sunday, September 6, 2009
EMBRACE YOURSELF
LOVE WHO YOU ARE
The reason I have become genuinely happier, is I have embraced myself. I know how and why I am different, and I welcome it. I am a good person and that is all that really counts. I am not a barbie doll figure, but i love who i am inside (more on this later - will be titled "you only rent it").
I judge myself by 2 facts. 1) can i sleep with myself at night (my conscious does not bother me as I have done everything I believe in - like not hurting others, etc...) 2) all the people i love around me, and actually value their opinion, are always saying wonderful things about me. Not that i believe totally in "worrying what people think" but if its all good, well that sure doesn't hurt - ha ha.
I just love self-discovery and I think it probably never ends. Whether it is pondering how you reacted in a situation and learning "maybe next time i will/wont do that". I like listening and observing other people and seeing what I or others find good or not good in that person and wondering if i do that or did do that and what i can learn from it and take away from that situation. I love taking quizzes but only the ones that were researched and put together with much information - like the Myers-Briggs and the True colours -those kind-( i will put the links up to those when I figure out how to -haha)- not the little mini silly ones like on facebook i once did one "how will you die" and got told i would die face down in my hamburger at the age of i think it was 38 or something- well i am well over that age for one, so i am not going to run out and become a vegetarian anytime soon based on that quiz - haha.
Anyway, I got told by the Myers-Briggs I am an ISFP and my true colors one I am an orange. I get the same results each time and it just makes me embrace my differences and acknowledge who I am and what I can and can not do- I don't need to be everyone else. No, I will probably never be as organized as some with everything in its place. Not to say you can not learn to change things you want to-of course you can. But don't be hard on yourself or let others be hard on you. Are you hurting anyone? If not, are your shortcomings really that bad?
I apologize- while i write this, I am listening to a dear friend doing a radio show and trying so hard to give my full attention to this blog as another friend is dying to read my next piece (the bucket list) . And see, I admit that I usually can not do 2 things at once - but i just apologize and do the best i can-
Also, maybe you have little pet peeves - or obsessive compulsive disorders- my family thinks i have this because little things like using the dishtowel instead of a hand towel to dry their hands sends me over the edge- but we laugh about it - i don't lose sleep over it or kick anyone out (yet-haha).
So whatever your colors, personality type, pet peeves/obsessive compulsive disorders, you are who you are. Are you a good person? Do you do the best you can based on all you know, all you have learned, and are still seeking to grow and love yourself more? ....Then you can sleep tonight.
Lots of love from Lori love ,
till the next piece-
The reason I have become genuinely happier, is I have embraced myself. I know how and why I am different, and I welcome it. I am a good person and that is all that really counts. I am not a barbie doll figure, but i love who i am inside (more on this later - will be titled "you only rent it").
I judge myself by 2 facts. 1) can i sleep with myself at night (my conscious does not bother me as I have done everything I believe in - like not hurting others, etc...) 2) all the people i love around me, and actually value their opinion, are always saying wonderful things about me. Not that i believe totally in "worrying what people think" but if its all good, well that sure doesn't hurt - ha ha.
I just love self-discovery and I think it probably never ends. Whether it is pondering how you reacted in a situation and learning "maybe next time i will/wont do that". I like listening and observing other people and seeing what I or others find good or not good in that person and wondering if i do that or did do that and what i can learn from it and take away from that situation. I love taking quizzes but only the ones that were researched and put together with much information - like the Myers-Briggs and the True colours -those kind-( i will put the links up to those when I figure out how to -haha)- not the little mini silly ones like on facebook i once did one "how will you die" and got told i would die face down in my hamburger at the age of i think it was 38 or something- well i am well over that age for one, so i am not going to run out and become a vegetarian anytime soon based on that quiz - haha.
Anyway, I got told by the Myers-Briggs I am an ISFP and my true colors one I am an orange. I get the same results each time and it just makes me embrace my differences and acknowledge who I am and what I can and can not do- I don't need to be everyone else. No, I will probably never be as organized as some with everything in its place. Not to say you can not learn to change things you want to-of course you can. But don't be hard on yourself or let others be hard on you. Are you hurting anyone? If not, are your shortcomings really that bad?
I apologize- while i write this, I am listening to a dear friend doing a radio show and trying so hard to give my full attention to this blog as another friend is dying to read my next piece (the bucket list) . And see, I admit that I usually can not do 2 things at once - but i just apologize and do the best i can-
Also, maybe you have little pet peeves - or obsessive compulsive disorders- my family thinks i have this because little things like using the dishtowel instead of a hand towel to dry their hands sends me over the edge- but we laugh about it - i don't lose sleep over it or kick anyone out (yet-haha).
So whatever your colors, personality type, pet peeves/obsessive compulsive disorders, you are who you are. Are you a good person? Do you do the best you can based on all you know, all you have learned, and are still seeking to grow and love yourself more? ....Then you can sleep tonight.
Lots of love from Lori love ,
till the next piece-
Saturday, September 5, 2009
BITS ABOUT ME
LITTLE TIDBITS
I am a mother of 3 (different age groups mean different problems and of course different personalities) step-mother of 1, step-grandma of 1. Been married, seperated and lived common-law. I certainly have not been 'through it all' but most things i can say 'been there, done that'. Now i just have to 'write the book' haha-another reason for this blog. My dream is to write a book. A childrens book is on my mind currently and I am working with a special illustrator on that one. A book like this blog is another dream if i can help people to think more positively.
"Life is a journey, not a destination"
An awesome quote (not mine) i totally believe in!
I am a very spiritual person. Not like 'go to church every sunday' spiritual. More of an inner peace, deep, soul-searching spiritual. I have very positive outlook on things so not much can get to me. I think that started because of all I have been though in life and its like a lifestyle change, but anyone can do it. I am just very simple, very honest, very deep and very scatterbrained. I have at least a few ideas per hour. Some think that makes me interesting. I think it makes for a great genius if i could actually organize my thoughts and my time. Haha. That is why i need this blog.
I am a mother of 3 (different age groups mean different problems and of course different personalities) step-mother of 1, step-grandma of 1. Been married, seperated and lived common-law. I certainly have not been 'through it all' but most things i can say 'been there, done that'. Now i just have to 'write the book' haha-another reason for this blog. My dream is to write a book. A childrens book is on my mind currently and I am working with a special illustrator on that one. A book like this blog is another dream if i can help people to think more positively.
"Life is a journey, not a destination"
An awesome quote (not mine) i totally believe in!
I am a very spiritual person. Not like 'go to church every sunday' spiritual. More of an inner peace, deep, soul-searching spiritual. I have very positive outlook on things so not much can get to me. I think that started because of all I have been though in life and its like a lifestyle change, but anyone can do it. I am just very simple, very honest, very deep and very scatterbrained. I have at least a few ideas per hour. Some think that makes me interesting. I think it makes for a great genius if i could actually organize my thoughts and my time. Haha. That is why i need this blog.
welcome to my world
Welcome to my world!
Well, hello out there in blogging land-I am brand spankin new at this, so bear with me. Why should you read my blog you are asking? Well, quite simply, you certainly dont have to but something made you click here, so i owe it to you to help you, entertain you, maybe at least make you laugh and have a great day.
ITS LONELY AT THE TOP
I just love to share my wisdom. As you will see, I love mottos. One of them is "It's lonely at the top" which my family finds quite amusing. I only say this, not becasue I think 'i know it all' but I know enough that when I give advice and that person doesnt take it, that they will be back to say "I should've listened" and I will be frustrated and vow to never give them advice again, haha and that doesnt happen. So I thought i would have an outlet like this blog that i can just share wisdom, vent, and maybe help a few people or learn a few things myself.
One Condition - not a difficult one i promise -
Just promise me one thing please-that you will never comment back rudely/vulgarly or insulting. I can take constructive criticism, especially when i am still learning something, but i never understand the need for some peoples comments where all they do is swear and put someone down with really vulgar words instead of just maturely explaining why you may disagree. Please dont make me learn how to block people. Haha.
Well, hello out there in blogging land-I am brand spankin new at this, so bear with me. Why should you read my blog you are asking? Well, quite simply, you certainly dont have to but something made you click here, so i owe it to you to help you, entertain you, maybe at least make you laugh and have a great day.
ITS LONELY AT THE TOP
I just love to share my wisdom. As you will see, I love mottos. One of them is "It's lonely at the top" which my family finds quite amusing. I only say this, not becasue I think 'i know it all' but I know enough that when I give advice and that person doesnt take it, that they will be back to say "I should've listened" and I will be frustrated and vow to never give them advice again, haha and that doesnt happen. So I thought i would have an outlet like this blog that i can just share wisdom, vent, and maybe help a few people or learn a few things myself.
One Condition - not a difficult one i promise -
Just promise me one thing please-that you will never comment back rudely/vulgarly or insulting. I can take constructive criticism, especially when i am still learning something, but i never understand the need for some peoples comments where all they do is swear and put someone down with really vulgar words instead of just maturely explaining why you may disagree. Please dont make me learn how to block people. Haha.
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